Komesha Dhuluma
Domestic violence is often seen as an issue that only affects women and girls, but the reality is much broader. It touches entire families, communities, and society at large—cutting across gender, age, and social boundaries. From children witnessing conflict at home to men experiencing abuse in relationships, domestic violence leaves deep emotional, social, and economic scars.
We recently held a community awareness session against Gender-Based Violence in Gachie, focusing on domestic violence. The session created a safe space where participants openly shared the factors that contribute to abuse at home.
How Substance Use Contributes to Domestic Violence
One of the recurring themes shared by participants was substance use, particularly excessive alcohol consumption. Together, we explored how alcohol and drugs can intensify existing tensions and lower self-control, making conflicts more likely to turn violent.
We discussed how being under the influence impairs one’s ability to think clearly, manage anger, and communicate respectfully. What might begin as a small disagreement can quickly escalate into aggression, verbal abuse, or even physical harm. Substance use also affects judgment and emotional stability, leading to poor decision-making and making it harder to resolve conflict calmly.
How to Support Loved Ones in Situations That Could Trigger Domestic Violence
During the session, one participant shared the challenges he faces with his wife over finances. He explained that money meant for household food often ends up being spent on alcohol, and when he buys food directly, it is sometimes sold to purchase more. Despite these difficulties, he expressed love for his wife and a genuine desire to help her. His story revealed how substance use can fuel household conflict and showed the complex dynamics that often lead to domestic tensions.
This conversation opened a discussion on how to recognize and manage triggers, such as stressors, behaviors, or recurring patterns that spark conflict. We emphasized the importance of healthy communication: speaking calmly, listening actively, creating safe and non-judgmental spaces, and seeking compromise. These approaches reduce tension and help partners understand each other better.
We also encouraged participants to offer emotional support through regular check-ins and by validating their loved ones’ feelings, reminding them they are not alone. In more complex situations; especially where substance use or persistent conflict is involved. We recommended seeking professional help from counselors, support groups, or social services for proper guidance.
At the same time, we underlined the importance of modeling positive behavior at home. Respect, patience, and empathy go a long way in influencing how others respond during conflict. Lastly, we reminded participants that while offering support is vital, it must never come at the cost of personal safety; setting clear boundaries is equally important in promoting a safe and healthy home.
Moving Forward
This session reminded us that ending domestic violence begins with understanding, empathy, and open communication.
As we move forward, we plan to hold more sessions with our participants to continue these important dialogues, creating safe spaces where individuals can learn, share, and support one another in building violence-free homes.
