Gender-based violence (GBV) is widely recognized as a violation of basic human rights, yet it remains a pervasive issue across the globe. Late last year, to mark the 16 days of Activism against GBV annual campaign, we hosted an awareness session on GBV in Githurai 45, with support from organizations like Generation Guiders and Call Africa. The session brought together 101 participants, aged 12 and above, to raise awareness about GBV, its various forms, and the impact it has on individuals and communities.

What we discovered during the session was eye-opening: many of the attendees were unaware of what GBV was, highlighting the importance of raising awareness.

Breaking It Down: Age Appropriate Conversations for Greater Impact

To ensure that the content covered was age appropriate, we divided the participants into three groups based on age, each guided by a facilitator. One of the groups, 18 and above,  sparked a deep discussion on the forms of GBV, particularly physical and emotional violence. These issues are often more relatable and pressing to individuals in this age range, as they may experience or witness such violence especially in intimate relationships. A surprising number of participants believed that domestic violence was a private matter, something that should be resolved within the family.

This belief highlights the deep-rooted attitudes that perpetuate GBV, as many people remain unaware that a partner can be the perpetrator of such violence, or treat it as a normal part of being in a relationship. 

One brave participant who is a fruit vendor shared her heartbreaking story. She recounted how her husband beat her mercilessly, and whenever she sought help, she faced one obstacle after another.

She first went to a local community leader, who promised to investigate the issue but took no action. The second time she was beaten, she went to the police, but they refused to intervene, claiming they don’t get involved in marital disputes. When she turned to her family, her mother told her, “Kupigwa nikawaida. Vumilia! (Being beaten is normal. Persevere!)” The next time it happened, she finally got her husband arrested, but he bribed the authorities and was released. When he returned home, he beat her again. At this point, she chose to “vumilia” to, avoid confrontations for her safety.

One male participant, however, chimed in stating, “Maybe it’s her fault her husband is beating her!” This was a classic example of victim-blaming, where the survivor is made to feel responsible for the abuse. This harmful attitude can lead victims to internalize the belief that they somehow deserve the violence inflicted upon them.

The Importance of Addressing Victim-Blaming

Statistics from the Kenya National Bureau of Statistics reveal a shocking reality: 41% of married women in Kenya have experienced physical violence, compared to just 20% of unmarried women. This stark contrast emphasizes the need to address not only the violence itself but also the societal attitudes that allow it to persist.

Another critical issue we also discussed was sexual violence within marriage. A prevalent misconception is that marriage or being in a relationship entitles a partner to sex. One man jokingly remarked, “Kwani nilimuoa wa nini? (What did I marry her for?)” This statement highlights the dangerous belief that consent is not necessary within the confines of marriage.

We took the opportunity to emphasize that consent is fundamental in every relationship—whether married or not. Mutual agreement is essential, and both partners must respect each other’s autonomy and boundaries.

Creating Safer Communities

Through our GBV awareness initiative, we are working to create safer, more respectful communities where individuals—regardless of gender—feel valued and protected. Despite the presence of laws, policies, and commitments, violence against women and girls remains alarmingly widespread. There is #NoExcuse for abuse.

The Government of Kenya has committed to ending GBV by 2026 as part of its global leadership in the Generation Equality Action Coalition. Kenya has also developed a robust legal framework to combat GBV, with numerous laws that—if enforced effectively—could significantly reduce violence. However, true progress will only be made when these laws are actively upheld and the mindset that allows GBV to flourish is changed.

You Are Not Alone

If you or someone you know is experiencing any form of sexual or gender-based violence, help is available. Reach out to us by sending a message to 0758 739 232 or call the 1195 helpline. We stand ready to support and guide you on your journey to safety.

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