Komesha Dhuluma
In our ongoing efforts to create awareness against domestic violence, we recently held a community session in Kiandutu in collaboration with Pink Genderwatch Network and the area Community Health Promoters (CHPs). The session brought together 58 participants, both men and women, at the Eden Center Community Hall. Despite the heavy rains, participants showed great enthusiasm to learn, share, and be part of the conversation.
We began the session by defining domestic violence. One participant described it as “violence that happens in the home,” The discussion deepened as participants highlighted various forms of domestic violence, including physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse.
“The first step to curb violence at home is having open communication,” we encouraged, emphasizing that when silence takes over, unthinkable things can happen. Having several men actively contribute to the discussion was a strong reminder that ending violence is a shared responsibility. Their participation reflected a genuine commitment to building healthier, safer relationships. We emphasized that speaking up demonstrates courage and leadership, and that open dialogue is key to individual and community wellbeing. In our midst were vibrant young people whose passion for change stood out. We called upon them to become peer advocates for peaceful relationships, guided by the belief that love is built on respect, not pain.
A peaceful community begins with peaceful homes.
Resolving conflicts at home with respect and understanding is essential to building a violence-free society. During the discussion, the topic of bride price emerged. One participant shared that some partners misuse this cultural practice, believing that paying bride price grants them control or unquestioned submission from their wives. We clarified that the bride price is not a transaction, but a gesture of appreciation to the bride’s parents. We emphasized that no one can ever put a price on a human being.
This discussion led us to a reflective scenario: “How would you respond if someone confided in you that they were experiencing physical abuse?”
The responses were varied and eye-opening. One participant suggested perseverance, prompting mixed reactions from the audience with murmurs and laughter filling the room. Another said they would encourage the person to pray about it, while another referenced a local saying, “kiura ruga”, meaning “speak up”. Others shared they would advise the person to separate temporarily or take time apart, while some stressed the importance of listening to both sides before drawing conclusions.
We highlighted that the first and most important step when a victim approaches a CHP is to create a safe and non-judgmental space where they feel heard and supported. The next step is to help them access professional help or move them to safety if necessary. Some participants also acknowledged that many victims choose to endure abuse for the sake of their children; a painful reality that requires empathy and community support.
The goal of this session was to build community champions who will continue spreading awareness, supporting victims, and promoting peace within families. By working with the community members, we aim to create a Kiandutu where love, respect, and safety thrive in every home.
